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Evaluating your needs, wants, and necessities in a D/s dynamic

November 10, 2023

As human beings, W/we evolve, change, and transform each day. What you may have desired in your 20s can look quite different in your 50s. So when was the last time you truly evaluated what your needs, wants, and necessities are for a current dynamic? Do you need more gentle nurturing? Or are you ready…
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Summer Fun at Divine Sadism

Water, servants, slaves, chattel and the Divine are the perfect recipe for laughter, with a generous sprinkling of mildly sadistic fun. Add games, banter, a little poolside chaos, plus a tray of summer aperitifs with some very surprising effects, and you have an afternoon at Divine Sadism. No one drowned. We consider that a success.…

August 19, 2026
Fondly Remembering DSF I 2016 – 2020

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August 17, 2026
Letters to Tomorrow: DSF Slaves Write “Dear Me”

The turning of the year is a chance to pause, reflect, and choose a direction. For this “Dear Me” devotion, DSF slaves and servants wrote short letters to their future selves – capturing what they hope to grow into, remember, or change in the year ahead. shovelbum d’Elf (talis) Dear Santa, Keeper of Snow and…

August 16, 2026
“Goodness of Fit”, D/s, and Femdoms in Second Life – by Rosa Hunter

The concept of “goodness of fit” comes from research considering parenting and temperament: According to Chess and Thomas (1999, pp. 3) “goodness of fit results when the properties of the environment and its expectations and demands are in accord with the organism’s own capacities, characteristics, and style of behaving.” If there is a match between an…

August 15, 2026
Servant and Slave: What’s the Difference?

Our recent Salon at DSF raised the following topic: While no one gets to define your submission but you, there are general categories within the lifestyle. We will explore those of servant and slave. The conversation that followed opened up a whole host of issues and, as usually, every left with lots of new questions…

August 7, 2026
From Curiosity to Confidence: Lovense’s Anonymous Prostate Pleasure Survey

Many men are intrigued by prostate pleasure but may refrain from exploring it due to various barriers such as stigma, fear, and privacy concerns. Hesitation and the potential for judgment also contribute to this reluctance. In May, Lovense conducted a survey to investigate these issues further, revealing insights into men’s perceptions and experiences with prostate…

August 5, 2026