Category: The Lifestyle – SL & RL
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“Goodness of Fit”, D/s, and Femdoms in Second Life – by Rosa Hunter
The concept of “goodness of fit” comes from research considering parenting and temperament: According to Chess and Thomas (1999, pp. 3) “goodness of fit results when the properties of the environment and its expectations and demands are in accord with the organism’s own capacities, characteristics, and style of behaving.” If there is a match between an…
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Servant and Slave: What’s the Difference?
Our recent Salon at DSF raised the following topic: While no one gets to define your submission but you, there are general categories within the lifestyle. We will explore those of servant and slave. The conversation that followed opened up a whole host of issues and, as usually, every left with lots of new questions…
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Humor in Submission…
Power exchange in general, and Femdom in particular (that’s really why i’m here, after-all) ) can often rightly be very serious business. Deep emotions are being tapped into between Goddess and slave: trust, dedication, bonding, cherishing, caring, affection, The list goes on and on and is as exquisitely unique as the people involved. So is…
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Thankfulness 365 Days A Year
Life can be a hard ride. Often, the cards we are dealt seem stacked against us. Our brains evolved to prioritize survival over comfort or calm. We scan for threat, register disappointment faster than satisfaction, and remember harm more vividly than safety. This negative bias has kept our species alive. It has also influenced the…
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Spring Sale at Lovense
As the days get longer and the weather grows warmer, spring brings a fresh start. Spring is the perfect time for connection and exploration, just as nature awakens, so does the body’s craving for intimacy, pleasure and new experiences. What better time to embrace your desires and indulge in a new toy? Whether you’re looking…
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Careful What You Wish For: Edging for No-Cum-Vember
Edging. It is something I have a love/hate relationship with and this month, No-Cum-Vember, has been especially illustrative of the struggles I have. This past month at my Rites of Redemption, I was given two tasks. The first, like all the other s-types at DSF, was to not cum for the entire month unless given…
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s-types should Always “Ask”, Don’t “Tell”
It is natural in casual conversation (not a D/s environment) to say, “Hey, I’m going home now,” or perhaps, “I’ll be back later, dinner time!” But in O/our high protocol Femdom, that is considered directing yourself and telling a Dominant what you are going to do. Unacceptable! This is a form of stealing power. And…
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Don’t Reward Bad Behavior
Do You give Your dog a treat when he shits on the carpet? What about when Your cat pees on Your favorite boots? No! Of course You don’t. So, don’t reward bad behavior of s-types when they act up to get attention, or get what they want. That will not make a more obedient or…
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“Love is NOT an Emotion” by Divine Sadist Isabelle
It’s the season of love, and many like to celebrate Valentine’s Day. We buy cards and treats to offer as gifts of ‘love’. Is this something you do? I did a little digging about the ’emotion of love’. I’ll paraphrase part of an article summarizing studies on love. Studies say maternal and romantic love are…
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Transformative D/s Dynamics
At DSF W/we work very hard at ‘investing’ our time, energy, and efforts on developing a strong collaborative community that understands and supports its M/members. O/our practice, both solely in Second Life (SL), as well as SL to Real Life (RL), focuses on the personal development of both Domme and slave. It is focused, intentional, and…
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Out Damn, Spot!
As a Woman who practices Goddess/slave dynamics, the thought of a ‘dog’ sleeping in My bed disgusts Me. No, I’m not talking about your four-legged fur babies… I’m talking the naked bitch boy who eats scraps from the floor. In My view, a slave is there to serve Me, and I wouldn’t think of having them…
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Embracing Your Sadism
Tonight, Miss Rosa facilitated a wonderful Salon on the topic of “Sadism – What Kind of Sadist are You?”. Great conversation was had around the subject, with questions and comments regarding, “What does your sadism mean to you? Do you shy away from identifying as a sadist? If so, why, or why not?“ Towards the end of…
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A Humiliatrix Primer: Mock, Shock, & Lock
Happy New Year E/everyone! Today, I am writing from My personal experience as a humiliatrix, regarding the joys of the practice, and the basics of venturing down this road in D/s. Let it be stated, yet again, that I work solely with male slaves, and while I identify as a Female Supremacist, I am NOT…
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Putting the Honor in the Honorific
Yes, Sir.No, Ma’am.Yes, your Honor.No, your Majesty. Why do we offer ‘special titles’ to those we may not know in the mainstream, yet, sometimes hesitate to offer them up in D/s circles? Perhaps it is the lack of disciplinary structure and training in most SL communities, few of which employ high protocol. But let’s dig a…
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Responsible “Endings” in D/s Dynamics
Recently, I was quite shocked and disappointed by a Dominant acquaintance, who dumped their slave after deciding they wanted to shift their life direction away from Femdom, and toward another life passion. Literally, their slave was told, after sensing something was off, “I’m leaving Femdom, and we can stay friends, but I’m moving in this…
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Evaluating your needs, wants, and necessities in a D/s dynamic
As human beings, W/we evolve, change, and transform each day. What you may have desired in your 20s can look quite different in your 50s. So when was the last time you truly evaluated what your needs, wants, and necessities are for a current dynamic? Do you need more gentle nurturing? Or are you ready…
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Metamorphosis and Transformation in D/s
Are Y/you a numb little bug trying to find Y/your place in the world of BDSM? Do Y/you have a desire to grow and change in Y/your D/s practice? To experience a ‘deepening’ in service, or Dominance? Well then, Y/you have come to the right place… Divine Sadism Femdom. In the realm of Second Life,…
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Setting the Scene in SL
A lot of people in Second Life, often, who have RL BDSM experience, find ‘virtual scening’ less than satisfying. But as One who has done both, I can say that planning a pixel play session can be immersive, entertaining, and enjoyable. At DSF, W/we enjoy both options — role play AND real play (long distance).…
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Questioning Y/your Comfort Zone
When it comes to D/s and kink, where is your comfort zone? Are there certain practices that come easily, and others that seem way beyond the boundaries of comprehension? As a Dominant Woman, one of My passions is safely pushing limits with those I engage with. I want to help them experience new things, and…
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Erase the Excuses!
“I’m only human.”Oh really? I didn’t fucking know that. Thanks for pointing it out. Yes, that is an excuse. And quite a stupid one. I thought you were a lump of shit. Well, in My reality, perhaps you are. WHY DO YOU MAKE EXCUSES FOR BAD BEHAVIOR? Just fess up. you wanted to self-indulge, be…
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Review of MyStim Tension Lover, by Talis
Pricing and ordering and delivery: The MyStim unit i bought came via www.bol.com for 117,50 euro (128 USD). This includes 4 gel pads, two double wires (+ and -), a 9V flat battery all packed in a nice case. In addition, I bought MyStim “charming chuck “(beats me why they call it chuck) which are two straps…
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The Value of Virtual BDSM
When I chat with F/friends who are not online in Second Life, or perhaps don’t even really get online beyond checking email, Facebook, or watching the occasional YouTube video, I’m often met with confused looks and weird comments about, “that’s not REAL, why are you so into it?“ Most of these F/folks don’t even know…
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Foot Fetishes: Worship, Slapping, Gagging… Oh My!
There is a common joy among slaves, even if they don’t identify as ‘foot fetishists’, and that is being near to their Dominant, kneeling, supplicant, or bowing at their feet. I consider ‘foot worship’ a bit different from just licking a boot. My own kinks lean further into the extremes of moist, sweaty, stinky, dirty…
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Ego vs. Confidence… Do W/we need them?
I once had a submissive male ask Me, “why do You get to have an ego, but i don’t?” Clearly his ego was getting in the way of his thought processes right then. *chuckle* So, I proceeded to explain to him that all humans have ego, but many need a ‘hard reset’ to bring bad…
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What is a POWER DIFFERENTIAL?
Most have heard of TPE (Total Power Exchange) when it comes to D/s relationships. Often you will hear people say, “I offer my submission as a gift.” Well, I didn’t ask for any gifts, now did I? At Divine Sadism Femdom, where “Women Rule, Period,” We prefer to express the energy flow in a dynamic…
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Pet Peeves of Poor Protocol
The following list is what I, Divine Queen Bitch Tanarra, find personally disappointing in slave behavior. Take note. 1.Not addressing Divine correctly. Misspelling My name, or offering the wrong honorific. We are high protocol, and this is BASIC.2. Not speaking from your knees. I identify, openly, as a Female Supremacist. If a slave stands and…
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“Anal Joy” Elevator Speech by Bodee
Afraid to touch your bung hole? Or be anally penetrated? Your apprehensions about anal play are likely related to sentiments about what comes out of, not what might go in, on, or around it. That, however, is easily remedied, as all you need to do is wash yourself thoroughly, and perhaps use a pre-packaged enema,…
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Maintaining FOCUS in D/s
We live in a world that is all about multi-tasking. How much can you accomplish in the limited 24-hours-a-day that you are given? We hustle and bustle from home, to work, to the gym, to the grocery store, to the doctor, etc. etc. The world becomes a blur of repetition and reruns. If we’re not…
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LOVENSE REVIEW: The “Ferri” by DSF slave, Shine
An honest review of the Ferri, the clitoral panty vibrator. On the note of, this was my birthday, i was told to put the Ferri on, and at first, i didn’t really know what it was going to feel like; but with the Divine controlling the remote it did feel like a very OMG sensation…
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How to Build Trust in a Dynamic
Do Y/you remember doing the ‘trust fall’ in school with friends? Or even in the work place as a team building exercise? I recall that memorable scene from the movie “Mean Girls” when Gretchen apologizes for being so popular, lol. So, how does one build trust? For Me, just like at the movies when Y/you…
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Review: LOVENSE “Diamo” by DSF slave, Talis
Ordering and Delivery: Ordering via the LOVENSE website went smoothly, and delivery was completed in 3 days. Packaging is fully discreet, arriving in a neutral carton box. The Toy: “The Diamo” is a vibrating, remote-controlled cock ring, that looks and feels high quality. I have had other sex toys which were not even close to…
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“High Protocol” by DSF Columnist, Scherzo
As a big fan of High Protocol, i was glad to get this assignment on the topic by Editor in Chief, Divine Queen Bitch Tanarra. Before describing why I’m a fan, i suppose i should define what it actually means. According to Webster – ok, scratch that. According to this DSF slave columnist, High Protocol…
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LOVENSE: “Flexer” Review by Divine Queen Bitch Tanarra
Divine Sadism Femdom is proud to be an official “Lovense Affiliate Partner“, https://lovense.com/p/D-S-F , and they are having some fantastic sales this month, up to 55% off on some toys, so I figured I’d jump into the fray and buy one. I’m not new to sex toys, but I am new to long-distance, remote controlled…
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Humor in Submission… by Scherzo
Power exchange in general, and Femdom in particular (that’s really why i’m here, after-all) ) can often rightly be very serious business. Deep emotions are being tapped into between Goddess and slave: trust, dedication, bonding, cherishing, caring, affection, The list goes on and on and is as exquisitely unique as the people involved. So is…
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Consensual Non-Consensual Slavery in SL D/s… Is it free?
This month’s community focus is “FREEDOM through control“. Not ‘with’ control, not ‘and’, nor ‘if’, but rather ‘through’. What does that mean specifically to U/us? Please share your thoughts in the comments below; here are Mine. The word through reminds Me of a sieve. Where something is experienced, yet passes through the mechanism. In DSF’s…
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“FREEDOM through control” by Scherzo
With a nod to Independence Day this month (in the US), today’s topic is freedom – specifically, freedom through control by the Divine Goddesses here at Divine Sadism. It seems a bit of a contradiction on first blush. After all, freedom is usually associated with less control over our actions by others, so how could…
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Control Him with LOVENSE Diamo
Want to give your favorite submissive a real BUZZ? Consider the “Diamo” from LOVENSE. This app-controlled, vibrating cock ring is comfortable, versatile, and stretchy! It is silent, with a powerful motor. Safe for longer wear, harder erections, and improved performance. DSF is a proud LOVENSE toy affiliate! ♥https://www.lovense.com/p/D-S-F
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Funny, or Twat?
A male visitor walks into a high-protocol, Divine Sadistic Femdom. Another man on his knees tries to be humorous and says, “Hey Joe, take a seat or pull up a knee.” Funny? Or twat? This happened tonight on deck, the inner sanctum. O/ur highest protocol zone within the Queendom. The ‘joker’ is a member, familiar…
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1000 Words of Summer – Task for DSF serfs
This project will run from June 22 to September 23. DSF serfs are tasked to write 1000 words, at minimum, in the time frame specified above. Write it just 12 words a day, or 1000 at once, the choice is yours. You may also write more than 1000, or pick more than one topic. Pick…
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Bristling at Corrections
It’s natural to react when someone corrects you. Most take it personally as a criticism. This is human. HOWEVER, in a high protocol Femdom, such as DSF, corrections must be accepted with grace and humility. If a Divine Sister spends energy and time to reprimand you over something She deems unpleasant, not only does She…
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I Want Your Obedience, Not Your Apologies!
At O/our sim in Second Life, there is a banner that reads, “I don’t want your apologies (excuses), I want your obedience.” This is true! Saying “I’m sorry,” for transgressions, or failures, may be a considerate offering, but not if your bad behavior continues. It is easy to say, and becomes meaningless after it’s heard…
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SL Shopping Therapy & Slave Training
Ladies, let’s be honest… who doesn’t love to shop in SL? Anyone? Thankfully at DSF W/we have the guidance of Divine Duchess Nellie, and her amazing posts to hot finds on the Discord #dsf-shopping channel. You can go there to find curated items that the Duchess herself has researched, tested, and even purchased. So, how…
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Tongue Tied
