A lot of people in Second Life, often, who have RL BDSM experience, find ‘virtual scening’ less than satisfying. But as One who has done both, I can say that planning a pixel play session can be immersive, entertaining, and enjoyable.
At DSF, W/we enjoy both options — role play AND real play (long distance). The energetic flow of O/our collaborative sessions is palpable, pleasant, and dare I say, potent! It takes some off guard by how intense the shared experience can be.
So what makes for a good scene in SL? I would say the following:
1. GOOD PLANNING – While impromptu fun happens on deck, and is quite delightful, it is good to plan your scene in advance and become familiar with the equipment you plan to utilize. Nothing kills the moment faster than bumbling about a menu, looking for the right poses.
2. RESERVING TIME FOR PLAY – Make sure you have privacy, are in a comfortable environment and head space, so you can really focus on who is in front of you, and the setting you are in. This helps with immersion, just like when you go to the movies. You limit possible disruptions. Keep that phone on silent people! 😉
3. DISCUSS THE PLAN – Talk to your play partner(s) in advance of the scene to let them know the general plan of events. Some elements of surprise make the adventure juicier, and pixels cannot be harmed, however Y/you still need to consider safety issues, potential triggers, and yes, unexpected interruptions, like losing Y/your internet connection. Bummer!
4. EMOTE or NOT – Y/you don’t have to be a great writer to enjoy a virtual scene. In fact, Y/you don’t have to write at all. Adding voice lends a ‘real element’ to the pixel play. Though not E/everyone is free to voice, or feels comfortable voicing in a scene. What is more important than perfect emotes, is being fully engaged energetically. Tuned in. Focused. Alert. If your attention starts to wane or falter, let your P/partner know this, as there is nothing worse than feeling like you are flying solo in a scene.
5. BE CREATIVE – SL affords U/us the opportunity to do, pretty much, whatever W/we like in world. Again, pixel play cannot harm you, but your mental state can. Make sure you feel safe, sane, and consent to the scene you are planning to partake in. If it starts to go awry, use your safeword, or ask to STOP. You might be virtually gagged, but you should still be able to type in IM or local. Remember to HAVE FUN, and see new activities as an adventure. Risk your pixels!
Do you have some favorite places in Second Life to scene? How often do you scene with your Mistress or play partners? Feel free to share your comments with U/us!
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