Do Y/you remember doing the ‘trust fall’ in school with friends? Or even in the work place as a team building exercise? I recall that memorable scene from the movie “Mean Girls” when Gretchen apologizes for being so popular, lol.
So, how does one build trust? For Me, just like at the movies when Y/you suspend Y/your disbelief that things can or can’t happen, Y/you have to extend a bit of faith, take a risk, and then make that leap.
Trust is also built by Y/your behavior. Be consistent. Consistency leads others to knowing what to expect, and in turn, this builds T/their confidence in Y/you.
Do Y/you value integrity? Do Y/you have strong convictions? Would Y/you make a solid house foundation? That last question is to be introspected upon. If Y/you waver, warble, are indecisive, or crack under pressure, Y/you’re bound to become a sink hole. A wise person would not invest in that land, just saying.
So, what can Y/you do to bring Y/your best self to the trust table? First, evaluate where Y/you can personally improve. Listen to feedback from others Y/you respect. Figure out why Y/you are hesitant to trust others (if, in fact, Y/you are).
Most people I know are afraid of being hurt. Afraid of extending themselves, becoming vulnerable, and then being used or abused. In O/our SSC practice of D/s at DSF, “We hurt, but never harm.” This means consensual non-consent play and practice in SL, and further, with trusted, vetted M/members, SL-to-RL.
But in order to gain trust, or make someone else trustworthy, Y/you must first give them the opportunity to show Y/you who T/they are.
To risk nothing is to gain nothing. Do you trust yourself?
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